Music plays a huge part of many people's lives and indeed their relationships, and it can define a wedding. From the church music to the drinks reception, the first dance to the last, if music is important to you and your fiance then it should certainly play a key role in your wedding celebrations. If you are having a church wedding there may be restrictions on the type of songs you can include in your ceremony; in fact some churches many not allow any secular music to be played during the ceremony at all. Choose a musician or singer who will help to create a beautiful atmosphere no matter what the song; and don't forget that you may have a friend or family member with a musical gift to ensure that your day is truly special. Don't forget about music for the drinks reception! There is nothing worse than a crowd of people gathered in a room without any background music to soften the din. Most venues will provide this, but make sure to ask and of course you can suggest or provide music yourself that you would like played during the reception and indeed the meal. If you have space within your budget, you might be able to hire someone to play for the reception such as a pianist (if a piano is available), a jazz trio or even a traditional Irish band. You will be paying quite a large chunk of your budget for entertainment, so do not under any circumstances feel like you can't tell them what to play! Most bands and DJs will have sample playlists - if you have absolute must-haves and absolute don't's, share these with them. I could only imagine having a fantastic night, only to hear a Westlife song and have a complete meltdown! On the flipside, the band could break into a version of The Cure or Foo Fighters, and I would love them and my wedding forever! The first dance is a huge decision to make together. There are the fail-safes: At Last, Unforgettable, The Way You Look Tonight...but unless these are some of your all time favourite songs, don't bother! It doesn't have to be your typical slushy, romantic ballad. It could be something like Babylon by David Gray, Sway by Bic Runga, or even something totally rock and roll like Shook Me All Night Long by ACDC! Here's a list of my favourite alternative love songs to inspire you: Alanis Morrissette - Head Over Feet The Cure - Just Like Heaven Alison Krauss - Baby, Now That I've Found You Aqualung - Brighter Than Sunshine Foo Fighters - Everlong Bell X1 - Rocky Took a Lover Blur - The Universal Chantal Kreviazuk - Feels Like Home Damien Rice - The Blower's Daughter Journey - Faithfully Otis Redding - Try a Little Tenderness Greenday - Waiting Jamie Cullum - Everlasting Love Neil Young - Harvest Moon Madness - It Must Be Love Muse - Unintended Oasis - Champagne Supernova Snow Patrol - Open Your Eyes Van Morrisson - Days Like This Don't forget to check with your band if your first dance is already in the repertoire; if not, are they willing to learn? If not, ensure they have a good quality copy of the song that can be played, and have a backup copy for the venue just in case!